Web Links : Loving Yourself - A Guide

Here's something fun, a link and here's what I found there, some of it is a little cheesy but I like it. 
http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself


Step 1. Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other peoples' lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude.

Step 2. Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness by sharing your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways or make a small donation to a needy elderly person or to an unfortunate child.

• Share opportunities for your potential happiness by sharing goals and accomplishments with a special person or a group. Help a candidate or a political cause or a community project. Help at a school or church

Step 3. Express yourself, perhaps in letters, if that fits your circumstance, or write an article, when you have a topic. Share your ideals, time -- or things you have or get.

Step 4. Learn to let go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don't close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them.

Step 5. Forgive yourself. Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself, look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself, or if you do then laugh realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning.

Step 6. Post positive statements up someplaces where you will see them each and every day. "I am beautiful." or "I have the courage to love." Read them outloud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them. Sticky notes are fabulous for such affirmations and goals.

Step 7. Sit in front of the mirror. Imagine in the mirror is someone putting you down. Then practicing calming replying to her/him, "I do 'not' care," with a smile. Practice it until you truly believe it.


Step 8. Try to look past "material" objects and feelings: We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion or simply a motive? Sometimes it's easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.


Step 9. Keep a journal. Write about your experiences, good and bad. When you write down good experiences, allow yourself to feel those feelings. When you remember bad experiences, allow yourself to feel self-compassion. Compassion is not self-pity, but rather willingness to be present/accept with one's own pain and regret. Most people experienced chronic emotional invalidation growing up; adults shouldn't expect others to be validating, and need to learn how to validate themselves. Compassion allows us to be present with our pain so it can acknowledged and let go.

1. Step 10. Be Persistent. Work as steadily as you can at loving and accepting yourself just as you are right now. A large part of love is accepting another "as is". This is no different for yourself—learn to love yourself "as is". Only after we've accepted themselves we might think about changing some less-than desirable characteristics.
2. Step 11. Start working toward how and what you want to do and be. Do so with a positive attitude by working toward your higher purposes and greater appreciation of your problems as motivating your finding new and better opportunities. Be enthusiastic and cheerful (appropriately).
3. Step 12. Define yourself by what you've accomplished rather than what you haven't. Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (toward the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead.
4. Step 13. Hug Yourself. Show yourself love through a hug by hugging the real you
5. Step 14. Be yourself. Be who you really are, express yourself, laugh, play, sing. Don't be afraid of what others think, they feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it too.
6. Step 15. Trust yourself. Don't just blindly follow other peoples suggestions. Learn to trust who you really are.
7. Step 16. Think of five positive words that describe you. Try not to use words like *pretty* and *nice*. Try variety.
8. Step 17. Think about what you really want someone to be like in a relationship. Do those characteristics also apply to you?
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